Today only, I will be your coach on how to not get conned as a woman when you fall in love.
I have done stupid things but the giving a man money stupidity has not been one of them.
1. Men do not ask women they love for money. Men pour money into what they love.
He is not broke , he is financially not into you.
Ubaya ni mnapenda kujiita independent women. Be kind to yourselves this year. Drop that man leeching on you ( he does not love you … read it again, louder and in caps)
2: You get conned because you are not a broke girl but you want to date or marry a broke man. Let broke men date broke girls.
3. You get conned because you think your house is the UN Habitat
We have not refused that your apartment is beautiful with panoramic views. No you do not bring stray men that you only met in the dark twice to your house or in your car. Now he has checked out your address and done a quick math of your earthly possessions. He knows the value of your car, has snooped on your linkedIn, and has a correct guess of how much you spend in a month and is conjuring up a commensurable figure to loan from you in a few months.
Self respecting men do not make themselves comfortable in houses of women whose finances they know nothing about… you will get conned or robbed very fast. He will not ask you for 50k when he has seen your lifestyle , he will start at 500-1.5M minimum.
4: You get conned in your marriages too. You marry men who are flower girls just because they offered marriage. You get conned because you want to have a man so bad …. Your only requirement is that he is a breathing man.
You will allow him to not spend a dime on your life together even though he works. You shoulder all the household responsibilities just to keep him. You will fund his drinking sprees, hobbies, road trips with his boys, infidelities and bad behavior so you can use the phrase “my husband”.
You go ahead and make your life even more miserable by having children of the same man who is already your adult child. You also pay for their school fees because daddy is a flower girl who is not allowed to buy tomatoes in the house. He has not left you yet but one day he leaves and you come to the internet to cry and tell us you got conned by your husband. He is now living with his stay at home wife.
5. You get conned because you want to adopt a young male doctor or lawyer. You want to pay for his masters’ degree or help him set up his practice. You want to offer him shelter, food, sex while he builds himself. You have seen other women cry after the men they adopted drained them and left but you think yours will be different. Karimi wake up!
6. You get conned because you are greedy or gullible.
Ochieng has been meeting you in a flashy rented rover spotting Italian shoes and talking big numbers on the phone with his imaginary business partners. He has been treating you right and paying for dates until 4 months later … he first borrows a paltry sum 200k pays you back. The third time he urgently needs 4 M but he drives a Range Rover so you are sure he will have it back in two weeks… Ahhh Wanjiru you send him the money or go take a loan because a guy in a flashy car asked for it. It’s 2 years later he dumped you and never paid you back and has conned three more women in the same fashion.
7..You get conned because you import foreign boyfriends and hide them in your house as they con other people … then they con you too
~ Michelle Langi and La Patrona