Bibi ya Tajiri
Dee Osuri is obviously known for her controversial opinions which tend to stir men the wrong way and completely upset them. Recently she had another opinion which we are extremely excited to republish below. This is all in Dee’s own words:
There is no single day I’ll call myself “bibi ya tajiri ” or those other pet names women chose for themselves defined by men’s financial muscles. For me, it’s either I am the “tajiri” or I don’t want it. I refuse to peg my identity on the depth of a man’s pocket! I refuse to earn power or respect based on the amount of money the man I’m sleeping with has.
Forging your identity from your boyfriend /husband’s socio-economic status is like building a house on a sand dune…
Even when I was dating a Senator, I refused to be addressed as so and so’s person.I turned down each and every opportunity I was being awarded simply because I was dating a “mheshimiwa.” I have a very flamboyant ego that has saved me from being a mere appendage . I told him “It’s either I am addressed as a mheshimiwa like you or nothing at all.”
I will never stand /build my identity from a man’s social/financial status ! If I am sleeping with a billionaire, it’s upon me to make myself a billionaire and be addressed as a billionaire not the wife of a billionaire. I am my own woman.
Francline Chisienya also you can look at it from a point of identity where you have your own distinct identity enough to speak on it’s own. That yes people know who you are married to but if today your husband was taken away people would still describe you without necessarily associating you to him. I think Dee was onto that encouraging women to have an identity beyond their husbands. You should be proud to be associated with your spouse but your identity shouldn’t revolve around him.
And I don’t believe women having their identities away from other people should be labelled as exception, it should be encouraged to be a norm. Most women loose themselves in others especially kids and spouses. You can still be the woman who takes pride in family but also one that recognizes you should pour as much to yourself to define you
There you have it. Are you bibi ya tajiri or not?